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Ever wondered how you always end up comparing your lives with those instagram models, and checking their fairytale lives, and as a result hating your own lives. Ughhhh… I know that feeling too.

And I have tried to stop it, and played with different ways which could help me focus more on myself.

And now, I have finally found a way to solve it.

I HAVE FINALLY CRACKED HOW TO NOT GET JEALOUS AND INSECURE.

And to remove every bad habit, we have to first go to the root of it, and completely remove it from there.

I promise you, by the end of this blog, you will have a different mindset towards the things you view daily.

So, let us start.

Shall we?

Shall we?

Ok now, lets just start… khikhikhihki.

Remember, when we were kids, and always told to get good marks from our classmates, and our schools constantly taught us, to prove oursleves through our marks.

For me personally, my parents sent me to a hostel at an early age, and I always worked hard to prove myself to my hostel guardan as well as tried my best to make my parents proud of me.

The getting good marks, and being better than our classmates slowly leads us, to compare little things with people, and trying to be better than them, and not treating them as equals.

I think this where it all started. We learn ways to become better all in the same direction and not in the direction of our own.

Schools teach us to to get good grades, because it will help us in the future. And the other things are just there for the show, so that jack doesn’t become a dull boy.

But, you are teaching jack, to not focus on himself, and focus on things he is not even interested in.. ahhahaha.

I mean why?

Why all the kids are made to race on the same tracks?

Can’t they be taught to make their own tracks and run solo?

I think, this is when we are taught nothing about our own unique identity.

Well our identity is defined by what kind of a student we were in the school. (The world is scary sometimes.)

And these slow things taught to us as kids, become unconscious insecurities and jealousy when we grow up and become adults.

Ever sat on the couch eating your favourite chips, and scrolling through he instagram models and wondered, why is my life not like them?

Why?

Why?

Why?

I have done that alot too. But then I made a story inside my head, and here it is:

I became that.

I am currently in the body of the person, I have always admired.

I amm that beautiful person now, who gets all the attention, has the perfect body and a perfect face.

wow!!

I am soo happy. My life is perfect.

Lets just celebrate. I’ll go get my favourite chips packet and eat it, because this body is never gonna get fat. And even if I eat for one ay, nothing major is going to happen, so let me just enjoy.

Lets upload some good photos on instagram and look bright and popular.

Damn! I look beautiful.

lets enjoy!

My life is finally perfect and amazing.

I have people loving me.

Manager: ” our schedule today asks for dance practice.”

(Oh I had completely forgotten, she is a dancer.)

Me: “ok cool.”( but I have never danced in my entire life.)

At the dance practise:

I tried every possible thing and tried my best to get the moves right, but I am just not able to get it. I think I will go to my room early and eat my snacks.

Nothing is goingto happen in one day, if I don’t practise.

So, I go back to my room. Ughh… I am aleady tired.

And I am full too, because I ate everything that was on the table.

Yum!! The dishes were tasty. My life is perfect.

This life is just how I imagined it to be.

A month passed by…..

Me: I think the weight scale is broken, it is showing the wrong weight”.( I laugh awkwardly.)

Manager: “you have been skipping dance classes for over a month, are you planning to go today?”

Oh yes, I had completey forgotten about the dance class, because I hated dancing. I want to paint, and sing in my room alone.

But the schedule is always so busy that I don’t really get time for myself.

My friends think I am acting weird, and I haven’t even been posting on instagram. I have done alot of shopping in the past month, and now the clothes don’t even fit me that much.

I feel like my money is running out, by staying in expensive hotels everyday.

And there is another problem, which involves my immediae attention, or else I will lose this huge sponsorship, which involves my dance moves, but I know nothing about dance.

Let me think, how would the original dancer that I admired tackle this situation?

But I never knew her personally, so how am I supposed to know, how she deals with these kind of people and situations in her life. Like how?

This is such a critical issue, and I am going mad here.

I feel like fredom has gone flying out the window, and I am unable to do anything that I want to do.

I miss the smell of paint on my hands and my clothes and thinking hard over my poems.

I Miss writing poems, but these days as soon as I reach my room, I am dosing off to sleep. Ughghhh….

This lifestyle is different than what I predicted. Well, it isn’t shiny stars, and ice-cream cones, and by the way, I am already on a strict diet by my trainer. ( ughh.. I never did a diet in my whole life.)

Well, I have just entered her life, and thought Iknew her life well and wished for it to become a reality, but I feel like I am loosing my original self, living someone else’s identity.

What was my identity before, I became her?

I don’t remember it anymore.

I think, since we were kids all the experiences that we faced, and all the situations that came up, we got through them, and they were kind of preparing us for the future.

Like now, I don’t even know, how to solve this problem that has taken place in her life, becaue I have never gone through something like this in my life, so, it is obvious that I wouldn’t know how to handle.

I wasn’t pepared by past experiences and situations for it. And that is why, I don’t know how to handle it.

Only she can handle these situations, and I will be best able to handle my own problems.

Every life comes with its own struggle. If I wanted to become like her only, I could have just told myself to flourish in my own way and be myself.

I realised, I never wanted her lifestyle, what I longed for, was the position that she was in. That successful image is what I had craved for, and I mistook it for her shiny lifestyle.

So, let me ask you? Why do you want to become like her?

And what does she have, that you don’t?

Now I have even lost myself, which I can’t even recall anymore.

A painter, a poet. I was this before, and now I don’ t even know how to draw.

I think this is what life is. Instead of wishing on someone else’s life, I shold have improvised in my own field.

Because that is what kept me feeling fulfilled, rather than the temporary fufillment that I got when living someone else’s life.

I had to give attention My own identity too. It felt like I had been removed out of existence, when I was in her body.

I missed my passion, my hobbies, my friends and my stupid life, which could have been improvised, if I wanted to better for myself.

And I understood I had only wanted somebody else’s life because I thought it looked better than mine, but well, my life was better too in its own way.

And I had my own purpose too which required my attention.

You see, we are all on this planet earth to fulfill our purpose, only then will we feel fully satisfied in our lives, and I just wanted that.

No matter, how much material wealth I gained, I wouldn’t feel fulfilled until I embraced my own identity. And all the dots started getting connected, as this is a huge topic which connects all the parts of our thinking mechanism.

Our unconscious beliefs, our comparison, and our jealousy. Everything happens, because we are yet to know ourselves fully.

Your purpose requires you to embrace and show our unique identiy, rather than steal someone else’s, and that is how we will get rid of this cycle of jealousy and insecurity.

Everything again leads back to loving ourselves and accepting our own selves, and once you start doing that , your body and life will bring forward unique charms about you which even you didn’t know existed. And when you put those unique charms out in the world, you will see yourself as somebody you wanted to be, that rich and famous personality but this time with your own identity.

Yess, people will want to become like you someday, like how you wished to become like somebody else. Then tell them to embrace their own charms and they will also become their dreams but with their own unique ability.

Just think. One day you are famous and successful because of your talent or your unique personality, and you didn’t follow anybody’s footsteps. You created your own. And if somebody calls you like the second da vinci ( if you are a painter ). Would you like it?

Yes, I would love to be called that at some point, but then I would also want people to think that my paintings are completely different than what Da vinci made. My paintings show a different meaning, and that is why I would love it more, when people would acknowledge the uniqueness in my paintings, rather than comparing my paintings with a great artist from the past.

Because Da vinci was a very good artist, and I really admire him, he inspires me too, but I want to add a little touch of myself in the paintings and create something new. And I would love it more, if I was called the first artist to have made such a unique painting.

If you understood the meaning of the last two paragraphs, then you know how to make your life now, and how important your own identity is.

Ok, then I think it is done. I hope so you understood what I was trying to convey.

And I even made a video on this topic, in which I have explained it in deapth. So, yes, enjoy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHbv0bCEYYs

And take care.

Lots of happiness an love to everybody reading this.

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