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I don’t know, if it is okay to do this, but finding myself comparing them to me, constantly is just me judging somebody.

It can be based on their clothes, possessions, talents, or even the way they look.

We often find ourselves, judging people, maybe because we don’t like something about them, but end up judging thm on completely different topic, then what we don’t like aout them.

For example, i don’t like that person has got so much of talent than me, and her reslt was good, even though she didn’t study much, but I will start criticising her, on how her face isugly, and how her thighs look like that of an elephant, and laugh abou it to my friends.

So, this was only the beginning, when my friends too laughed at my judgements, and i felt encouraged, and I started to look for things which would make my friends laugh even more, by judging her, then somebody else tmorrow, and then anoter one.

It’ll go on forever, and I won’t realise me getting restless everytime, i am not getting attention, from my friends, like the first tim i started judging them.

The person being judged, has done no harm to me in particular, but just because i don’t like something about them, i am going to ruin them in front of people i can.

Everybody can judge somebody, but not everybody chooses to do so.

It slowly starts getting addicting, and feeling restless, when I can’t seem to find a person to judge or body shame.

The stages of judgement go far beyond our imagination. Judging leads to gossipping, which leads to body shaming, leading to harming that person mentally, and in the worst scenario hurting them physically, which can also be called as bullying.

Don’t hurt anybody to an extent they cannot be repaired.

When i was in the hostel, there were many kids who were just like me, staying in a hostel away from their parents, and nobody to tell that they were being bullied, because we rarely got to talk to our parents on phonecalls which was either limited or was in front of many other people, who would go and complain to our guardian if we tried to talk bad about them. Or end up being called a crybaby, who tells everything to their parents.

Similarly, i had been judged and as a result I had started to judge people, or my own classmates.

There was one experience I had, which changed my whole perspective of judging a person.

I had friend in school, and we were both in separate hostels. She had failed, and so she had been degraded and was in my class. We became friends, but one day, i heard my classmates saying something bad about her, and something about her having tried to harm her body in the past. Despite knowing the fact, that she had tried to harm herself in the past, i stopped talking to her. And I was the only person she considered as a friend. The school was about to end for the day, and she had already tried a many times to mke me laugh and talk to me. But i had ignored her all the while, despite seeing tears in her eyes, which she tried holding in all the while.

My heart ached when, i saw the tear falling from her eyes when the school ended for the day.

I was waiting for my bus to arrive, all the while feeling guilty from the inside. She had always been so nice to me, and was always smiling at me. I turned back, and ran up to my class, looking for her everywhere. I had to apologise to her. I couldn’t treat my friend like that based on someone’s stupid comments on her. I looked her everywhere, i waited at the front gate so that I could hug her and tell her i was sorry.

Then I saw her, sitting all alone on the stairs of our front gate, looking at a tree. I went up to her, and I apologised to her, swearig that I would never treat her that way. She simply smiled and didn’t even ask me the reason, why i had behaved like that with her.

She sai, that she knew, I would never behave like that unless she had done something to hurt me. She took it all on herself thinking it was her fault. I told her everything, and that day i missed my bus, and walked all the way to my hostel, and swore to never hurt or judge somebody to an extent they cannot be repaired.

In our mind of fake flawlessness, we start hating everybody who has more than us, physically or materially, never letting us satisfy the urge of wanting more and more.

It is like this feeling of greed, but not for materiallistic things this time but for constantly looking for somebody to talk about or laugh out about.

Maybe we got a little too much attention to our friends who laughed it out with us in the very beginning, that we started to crave for attention in anyway possible, even if it involved hurting somebody.

As i said, in my hostel day, i had been judged, and i had judged as well, but never after that particular incident.

There are some secrets people tell you, hoping you would keep them safe, butsomewhere in the future when you turn rivas, it is still your responsibility to keep their secrets safe, no matter if they have told your secrets to everybody else.

You still have to keep their secrets safe.

One should not harm, even their enemies that they hate so much.

The funny sideeffect of this is, it also affects you mentally, because when you constantly judge somebody, it makes you insecure when doing anything yourself, thinking what if people would judge you like the wa you judged others.

It lackens your self-confidence.

So the lesson learnt is, judging doesn’t only harm the other person, but more so harms yoou in every way possible, mentally and physically, by self-criticising yourself.

It is like this meloncholic song, which slowly reminds you of destroying your own self slowly and by pieces to pieces.

So, whenever yoou catch yourself judging somebody, no matterhow indulging and tempting it looks, stop yourself and say, “you can do bettertha this.”

Maybe, you’ll find that person actually pretty, and you might want to complement them, rather than judge them.